“I decided to let go”- Man starts life afresh abroad after ex-wife denied him access to kids

• A Nigerian man shared his distressing custody battle experience with his ex-wife, which escalated during a visitation with his children.

• The situation involved police intervention and led to his remand amid ongoing divorce proceedings.

• After eight months of facing criminal allegations, he was vindicated and regained his freedom

• He made the difficult decision to separate from his ex-wife, recognizing her manipulation of their children.

A Nigerian man has opened up about his difficult custody struggle with his ex-wife, which took a troubling turn during a visit with his children.

Known as @TheOdin_II on X, he explained that the situation escalated, leading to police involvement and his temporary detention.

After eight months of dealing with criminal accusations while his divorce was ongoing, he was finally cleared and regained his freedom.

He made the tough decision to separate from his ex-wife, realizing she was using their children against him.

Although he misses his kids, he hasn’t been able to reconnect and has chosen not to reach out.

Determined to move on, he started planning to relocate to a new country, beginning the process in July and getting a visa by September.

Now that he is settled in this new place, he is starting fresh and finding happiness. He plans to remarry and looks forward to having more children.

In his words: “I share custody of two kids with my ex-wife. Unfortunately, she set me up during a visit to see the kids (confirmed by a judge at the magistrate court), leading to unnecessary restrictions.

“The situation escalated, involving the police, and I was remanded, later attending court on bail. After 8 months of navigating criminal allegations while the divorce was ongoing at the high court, I was finally vindicated, gaining my freedom.

“To move forward, I decided to let go of my ex-wife, who was using the kids as pawns. It was a painful decision, but I believed it was best for the children. Three months after the case, I initiated my plans to japa.

“The process started in July, and by September, I had secured a visa. Now in the new land, I am starting afresh. Do I miss my kids? Yes. Do I talk with them? No. Have I tried to reconnect? Yes. What now? Life is beautiful, and I’m happy to begin anew. I am getting married again & looking forward to having more kids.

“Despite the challenges, I remain hopeful that someday, I will reconnect with my children and provide them with the best as their father. There are some things of life one just doesn’t need to bother themselves about, particularly those things that may sap your energy and yank your freedom off you. Life is not as difficult as it may seem.”