“Submission is not mutual; a man submits to God, then his wife submits to him”- Solomon Buchi

Solomon Buchi, a relationship specialist and author, recently tweeted something controversial.

The media celebrity disclosed that surrender is not intended to be mutual in marriage in a tweet that has incensed many people.

That was not God’s intention, he explained, as he made men to submit to him and women to submit to men.

Many people have responded to his tweet, some supporting him and others disputing his assertion.

Below is his full statement,

“Submission in marriage is not mutual. A Christian man was not instructed to submit to his wife. In our egalitarian desire to equalize concepts, we twist scripture. A man submits to God and his wife submits to him. The concept of mutual submission is modern and wrong.

know you’re already feisty, but listen. Concepts don’t have to be two extremes to be valid – just because a Christian man doesn’t submit to his wife doesn’t mean he shouldn’t listen to her, consider her opinions, and make decisions that include her.

A good leader should be sound enough to listen to his followers, but because he listens to his followers doesn’t mean he is submitted to them. It is a modern day skew to insert equality into the fraction. The power dynamic in Christian marriage is not equal, but it’s fair.

Look at this: a man should be submitted to God, then you submit to him. Invariably, your safety is in his submission to God, because a God-led man will never be a torn in your flesh.

Again, it’s not equal in expression, but it’s equitable in purpose.

I know the scriptures you want to rebuff me with, but it is popularly misinterpreted.

“Submit yourselves to one another because of your reverence for Christ.” Ephesians 5:21/22.

That verse was addressed to the church – it is our responsibility to serve one another.

In some translations, the subheading change at verse 22 to show a change in the audience to Christian families. If you’re adamant to consider that, why then is there a clear instruction to wives to submit to their husbands in v22?

Descriptively, Paul even juxtaposes the man’s headship in marriage over his wife to Christ’s headship over the church. The church is submitted to Christ, but Christ does not submit to the Christ.

I think that as young Christians, we try to justify our egalitarian beliefs with the scripture.

We want to make God look more fair and just, just to appeal to modern people. It is sad, and I wish we understood that we can’t improve God’s word, because it never gets antiquated.”